What If ... Your Lover Had HIV?

What If ... Your Lover Had HIV?

What if your significant other told you that they were infected with HIV or AIDS? What would you do? Would you stay in the relationship or would you leave? That is the question I've asked myself many times since learning that my best friend was infected by her fiancé.

She chose to stay for many reasons but the main reason she chose to stay was out of fear of loneliness. While I realize that many people remain in relationships for the wrong reasons, at some point you have to wonder if it's really worth it.

I want to share three stories with you about choices: The choice to stay; the choice to leave; and the choice not to reveal status.

Tia's Story: The choice to stay
Back in 1993 there wasn't enough information about HIV and AIDS for Tia to make an educated decision. At the request of her fiancé, she got tested. She tested positive but chose to stay even after she found out that they were in different stages of the virus. She battled with feelings of shame, fear, embarrassment and hopelessness.